Recently, I was invited by my cousin to a mass deliverance service and began to grow excited. This excitement quickly turned into desiring that this one night would be the change I had been praying for seven years to take place. Not only did I begin to expect that my life would be ultimately transformed but was hoping my husband's life would be too. Leading up to the day of the event my anticipation rapidly started to grow about what the Lord was going to do in and with us, but not once did I stop to ask God what was his intention or plan for us. See, I got so caught up in what I expected God to do for me that I failed to find out if it was even in his will.
Well, I know too many times when I have been and completely understand if you are thinking this title seems like a 90's cliche rap song topic but the Holy Spirit impressed it upon my heart to address this subject. In the age of publicized self-made success stories and the glorified side hustle, we have placed a high value on the art of making our next dollar that it has become hard not to get consumed with the whole process. Now don't get me wrong because I am a firm believer in needing money to even function in this world we live in and having it can open doors to more choices. "So why bring this topic up then?", you may be asking.
I've always heard people say "good things come to those who wait" but I believe this phrase left out some very important stipulations that are vital parts of this Christian journey. What it should have been revised to say is "good things come to those who wait, work hard, endure the character building process and are obediently walking toward what God has called them to do." Now I know my version is a mouthful to say when encouraging someone and would probably never catch on, but as I am learning in my current season of walking entirely by faith, I wish someone would have shared these exact words with me. It can be so easy to get caught up in the test and trials that come our way as well as the many other distractions that try to overtake us while pursuing our God given purposes. So what inspired this particular blog was a recent lack of focus and pressure I was experiencing along my journey.
Many of you have probably heard this verse from the Bible found in Luke 6:31 KJV which says "And as ye would that men should do to you, do ye also to them likewise." If you did not hear it said this way, then you may have heard it as "do unto others, as you would have them do unto you." This phrase was considered the golden rule and the fundamental principle for how I was taught, in church, to treat everyone. It did not matter what the other person looked like, what church they attended or whatever differences we may have had. Even at a young age, when I applied this principle, I noticed overall it was met with many positive responses when I allowed positivity to flow from me and received adverse reactions when I was more negative in my approach.
As a wife and stay at home mom of two children, I wear many hats. On a daily basis my responsibilities can consist of multitasking the roles of a chef, teacher, blogger, housekeeper, accountant, and so much more but lately I have been feeling empty! This emptiness has caused me to desperately want to retreat from all my obligations in the hopes that I can feel refreshed or even at the very least, able to continue my acts of service. As much as I enjoy serving in my many roles, there are times where I start to become overwhelmed by the sheer weight of it all. It has never been an easy thing to admit when I am in need of help or let alone feeling like I am drowning. So while spending time with God, I decided to address this matter but found myself unable to say anything. I started to think that speaking up would be too much like admitting defeat or sound like I was complaining. Now the Bible says in Psalms 55:22 KJV "Cast thy burden upon the Lord, and he shall sustain thee: he shall never suffer the righteous to be moved." Knowing this verse, you would think that I would have been motivated to lay all my cares down at God's feet rather than continue to still hold on to them.
I wish I could say I have a "perfect" marriage or know couples who have it all together but that is just not the case. What I have learned throughout the years is that marriage is a learning and growing experience. Each day I get to see this growth as I draw nearer to God and place him first not only in my life but my marriage as well. I can still recall the day when I prayed for God to mold me into the perfect helpmate for my husband. I was not quite sure how this could be possible, especially because I did not know what parts of my character would have to be sacrificed to make this desire a reality. At the time when I said this particular prayer, I did not know it would require me stepping aside many times to allow God's transforming power to work within me. So without further ado here are lessons 6-11 and be sure to click on 11 Years, 11 Lessons (Part One) for 1-5 in this series.
With my wedding anniversary rapidly approaching, I decided to reflect back over the years and was just amazed at how far God had brought my husband and I. I was just 21 years old when we got married and did not understand what I was thoroughly getting myself into at the time. I remember hearing from those closest to me, "Are you sure you want to do this?" At first, these words caused doubts to form in my mind, but I believed my husband was heaven sent. Our initial attempts to make our lives become one flesh were rocky, and we encountered many challenges we were not sure how to face. Even though we both knew God, our relationships with him at that time were more like the on again, off again type. As we began to place God at the head of our marriage, we began to notice a significant shift happening. It was as if our hearts began to soften for one another and we finally began to listen, communicate and love one another more. So I wanted to share with you some valuable lessons I've learned over the years which have helped my marriage to grow.